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 Recently, my son had an encounter with a black male nurse during his hospital visit. As a parent, I was excited about the opportunity for my  medical complex son whom constantly followed by various of medical professionals weekly , to witness someone who looked like him in a familiar profession. 

 I wanted this experience to serve as an inspiration, a moment where my son could see himself represented in the medical field. However, I must admit that I was left disappointed by the nurse's behavior and attitude. Instead of embodying the role model standard I had hoped for, he fell short. His lack of empathy and professionalism left a bitter taste in my mouth. I understand that everyone has their off days, and I do not wish to generalize or stereotype based on this one encounter. However, it is disheartening when someone who could have been a source of inspirational sparks similar to those others whom spark my son talented drum playing at 10 months  old , instead this nurse   fails to live up to that expectation. 

Nevertheless, I refuse to let this disappointment deter my son from pursuing any dreams. I will continue to encourage him to look beyond one individual's actions and focus on the bigger picture. Representation is important, and while this particular experience may not have been what we had hoped for, it does not diminish the significance of having diverse role models in various professions. I will use this disappointment as a teaching moment for my son, emphasizing the importance of resilience and perseverance. I want him to understand that setbacks and letdowns are a part of life, but they should never define or discourage us from pursuing our goals. 

In the end, I hope my son learns that while not every person may live up to our expectations, it is essential to remain steadfast in our aspirations. We must continue to seek out positive role models who inspire us, regardless of their race or gender.


Warm Regards, 
Monica Watts-Franciosa 

AADP Board Certified CHHP 
NACBT Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist |USIDHR Human Rights Consultant | NAADC Cert. Addiction Counselor | NBSTA CST ret. 


“Currently Parenting” 
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